Wifes of crossdressers
Report 3. The Questionnaire II survey of crossdressers wives was developed in early and placed on the web site, Crossdresserswives. It will remain available for several more months, and if you are the wife or long-term partner of a crossdresser you are urged to respond see Questionnaire II on the web site home. By the end of September, wives had responded. The most important characteristic of this sample is that nearly all of the wives have never been part of a crossdressers support group or attended a convention for this group.
How old am I: 26
Tone of my iris: Clear gray-blue eyes
Gender: I am woman
What is my Zodiac sign: Leo
My body type: My figure type is quite plump
What is my hobbies: Driving a car
It was a major turning point for us as she surprised me and became comfortable right away talking with not only crossdresser wives but crossdressers too. He is!
She told me later that she expected to see bizarre people doing strange things and was surprised it was not there. I recognized and addressed her concerns while she weighed my desires knowing they would not go away and reached many compromises.
These are important issues because of the impact on family. I use our story as an example but the other couples that we have known are pretty much the same situation.
Oh no my husband/boyfriend is gay!
Address. Not surprisingly she said she needed to make some changes to my presentation the next day. Notice I use the terms deal and opportunity because crossdresser wives supporting their crossdresser husbands is not a given.
Life would be much easier without having to deal with his crossdressing. Everyone she encountered seemed nice and pretty much normal aside from their being crossdressed. It is common for her to worry that he is gay and will eventually leave her. There is just a little something extra that comes with the package. Before I go any further for those of us lucky enough to be married to a wonderful lady let me say thank you.
Ashley the crossdresser husband introduced us to CHIC along with sponsoring me to the club.
When out shopping she will ask me if we have any earrings that will go with the outfit she is looking at and if not, we buy some. Based Wifes the physical and personality attraction she assumes all is well and he is a great guy. She preferred I shower before returning home in the morning in guy mode. They share experiences helping them adjust to what is ahead. Any way you slice crossdressers she was not informed prior to the decision to marry and feels deceived. She helps with wig choices along with the colors and style of clothes especially if she is going out with me. The crossdresser wives of CHIC have a special bond with older wives helping younger ones.
Tolerates better describes her feeling as opposed to accepts his dressing. There was no internet in those days and little public knowledge available. Persistence paid off and after a year or, so she relented giving her blessing. Never has a problem running out of pantyhose in the colors she likes. She can never have too many shoes and it makes perfect sense to have every color with purses that match.
To be fair many times the crossdresser does not fully understand the phenomena.
That worked for both of us until crossdressing started to surface more in the news and finally the internet unleashed a ton of information. There is a certain level of comfort being out of town for her especially in another state. I wanted to have the opportunity to meet other crossdressers to share my experiences with. It is a give and take compromise that makes it work for us. I pick out my clothes prior to going out and she picks out the jewelry. That usually le to doing it in secret hoping not to get caught. The meetings were in Orange County California and were open to anyone.
The different restaurants that we went to were all very nice places with interesting menus and locations. I applied for membership and was accepted into the club but, my wife did not want to attend the meetings.
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I cased the hotel like a bank robber and got a room a few steps away from the meeting room. That way can she decide if she wants to go through with the commitment. She was impressed with how warm the people that she spoke with were. Some trips include Micki, but most do not which is fine because we buy her gifts like jewelry, purses, even shoes.
Despite her tolerance she would put the pill in my coffee if it were available.
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We have agreed that: Crossdressing is not something I do in our town. She finds wonderful surprises all the time that she just loves and did not even buy. Wives of Crossdresser wives deal with many uncomfortable issues but hopefully some positive ones also. It was the first time that she had seen me completely dressed and been out with me in public.
She had no interest in attending meetings with me dressed that close to our home, so it was back to the motel again. As a rule, I do not recommend counseling simply because we have not used it so could not speak from experience. She did not attend and wanted me to spend the night at the hotel. It is a problem but it is worse 20 years down the road when she decides on divorce and takes the kids with her.
After a couple of years discussing my evening out with the club such as who was there and what we talked about she became intrigued. She helped me buy clothes at first but then cooled off wanting nothing to do with it. Traveling, snow skiing, boating, scuba diving, golf and other sports have been prominent in our lives. I feel safe in saying that the wives would prefer he did not dress but have found a way to work with it. She expressed an interest in going with me depending on the restaurant and location.
There are times that the crossdresser decides not to tell her because he plans to stop dressing.
Career, kids, and other family demands influence our decisions about crossdressing. I am lucky because our tastes in clothing are very similar and was part of the initial attraction. Granted other people under the Transgender umbrella are exploring sites for useful information, but I think crossdressers are the majority. They had a strict dress code that was enforced so there was nothing offensive to see.
It is also common for her to think he will want to have a sex change sooner or later. They met in a conference room of a Best Western motel.
He doesn’t really love me…
They became friends that we have traveled all over the world with. Their years of experience can provide comfort to the younger crossdresser wives and relieve fears of what to expect I have also met other couples at various conventions around the country who have made a place for crossdressing in their married life. I crossdress on our San Francisco trips for evenings only not before PM. She is not included on Las Vegas trips but can go with other crossdressers a different time.
That is understandable in that most people seeking information on crossdressers are crossdressers.
His thinking is that it will not be an issue going forward if he stops. Good intentions but from my experience it never works. For being so understanding regardless of their level of tolerance. Even when the crossdresser fully understands the phenomena and did it right does not mean she will marry him. The masculine basics are common knowledge.
Guest post – my experience as a wife of a crossdresser
He thinks he will succeed in stopping. Fear of losing the woman he loves is the main reason men do not tell their wives up front. Yes, my dressing escalated at that point because my knowledge of crossdressing exploded. I wanted to go and brought it up to my wife who did not like any part of the idea. There is little or no mention of crossdresser wives. She wonders what she will be getting into or has gotten into so the more information she gets the better.
She was willing to attend a crossdresser conference in Texas with me. They are likely either married, divorced, or looking for a wife. She knows that I support every jewelry purchase she makes. Ideally refers to the act of fairness not the outcome which, can be very bad. Guess what?
Sadly, it does not make much difference to the wife who finds out after the wedding that he really tried to stop. There are various levels of tolerance based on the rules that are typically negotiated based on her concerns mentioned above.
It was not comfortable to exchange phone s with someone you just met, and it could be months before you both attended the same meeting again. Those of us who are married to a woman that will deal with our crossdressing have a wonderful opportunity. I attended for over a year but did not make friends because everyone including myself attended so infrequently.
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Few studies have been conducted to understand the phenomenon of transvestism, or crossdressing, as it is commonly referred.